In the last 18 months, many powerful women in my reality have chosen to leave this realm. Each, in her own way, a unique expression of potential... and for some, potential unfulfilled. Having worked with women intensely and intimately for close to 30 years, I am mindful of the Fire energy that courses through the tissue of so, so many women. This Fire ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane Monday
Memory Lane: Bankruptcy
Bankruptcy - a word that for many causes chills down the spine, a churning deep in the belly and the desire to run and hide! It’s a word that is laden with judgements and labels, running the gamut of questionable intelligence to suspect morals; leaving this a topic that is often shunned and left to languish to the very last moment possible. Not only do ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Women Shaping Culture
I believe that the future of the world is in the hands of women. It’s in how we choose to move through our lives, and our connections and interactions with others. It’s in our ability to trust in the inherent genius of living, organic systems and how they unfold and evolve. It lies in our willingness and ability to trust in our fear and do it anyway! I ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Choosing to Emerge
The start of a new year and the opportunity to pause... and make it count! It can be a daunting prospect: carving out space and time to focus 100% of your attention on yourself; choosing to leave no stone unturned in acknowledging, out loud, what you know already moves within. Not in the usual bits-and-pieces approach but in a concerted and wholistic ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Money, Self and Stuff
It’s that time of year, again. In a debt-driven economy dependent on perpetual consumption, December brings with it the biggest retail event of the year! Purported to open our hearts, for many this is more likely the press to open our wallets in some effort to meet or exceed expectations too often shaped by advertising and marketing hype. Who amongst us ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Edge of Potential
Strong (think: power), intense (think: passion) and definite (think: purpose) - when directed at creating what we want in our lives rather than fending off or pressing away what we do not want in our lives - take on a flow that supports the creation of Life rather than its destruction; awakens others to that potential in themselves; and leaves behind a trail ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Designing Your Life
I remember well, those days when I believed that I had to plan my life; to carefully map out the trajectory of my evolution rather than simply trust the process of my own evolving. I remember well the degree of detachment that was required in order for me to be able to do what was required; to stay the course of my own intention; and to make the sacrifices ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Violence and Silence
In my world of engaging with women who are seeking to regain their footing in their own lives, I have become mindful of two critical components that contribute immensely to keeping women in check: the first is silence and the second is isolation. One side of these is the need that women have to become silent, in an attempt to avoid reaction and diminish ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Women and Leadership
Over my 25+ years of working with others, I’ve come to conclude that expressions of, interpretations of and experiences of ‘leadership’ are deeply intimate and personal. For those with whom I engage in a more protracted exploration, they inevitably come to this simple observation: what is common to their definition of leadership is not the words they use or ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Line in the Sand
Consider how many times in your life you have stopped yourself from saying out loud what moves inside you; how many times you have said 'yes' to something when you wanted to say ‘no’; how frequently you have pulled back from the edge of your own thinking to, yet again, comply with the thoughts of those around you. Stop for a moment and allow yourself to ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Out of the Shadows
Are we ever really too busy to consider the quality of our own lives? As much as we can find ourselves caught up in the daily routines that form part of living our lives, our willingness and ability to stop... take a breath... and ask ourselves: “Am I living the life I desire? Or am I living the life I think I’m stuck with?” - is no more difficult than ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Penetrating Cultural Coma
As much as I am committed to engaging in the creation of a meaningfully sustainable life for mySelf, I am mindful that my life unfolds within a larger collective of others. My life is touched by and affected by the perspectives and choices of others, that include my family and friends; my colleagues and clients; and the cumulative impact of those whose faces ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Inviting Insights and Discoveries
How else might I choose to live my life, today? Such a simple question and yet - as one choice becomes the platform for the next - one that holds the power to profoundly transform our lives, our world and how we choose to engage that world! In many places around the world, the end of one year brings with it traditions that invite us to ponder the new ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Penetrating Cultural Coma
Life unfolds within a larger collective of others. Our unique and individual lives are touched by and often shaped by the perspectives and choices of others that include family and friends; colleagues and clients; and the cumulative impact of those whose faces we may never see and yet, their choices can shape the context within which we find our lives ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Chaos and Order
You’d have to be living in a cave on a mountain top not to notice the pace at which things in our world are shifting. Whether on the social, economic or environmental front, news reports - and our personal experience - are telling us that the world is changing in ways and at a pace that make it impossible for us not to pay attention! What is that larger ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Finding Your Voice
In my close-to 30 years of working with women, far fewer women actually don’t know what they want than there are women who know… and just won’t tell. That’s a tough one: when you think that others don’t want you to have what you want or that others would turn away from you if they really knew the truth of who you are. And yet, in all those years of working ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Cherishing After Divorce
We get divorced for a reason. If we were not able to work out our differences together, not likely that we’ll be able to work them out through our children! And yet, how many of us turn away from owning our own internal states; turn away from taking responsibility for our inner world and corresponding outer turmoil, allowing our children to be lost to the ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Money and Mind
Over time, money has come to be generally accepted as the currency of choice; as the preferred medium of exchange that allows us to bring into our lives that which, without currency, we believe we could not experience. Truth is, rare is the person or the moment when we stop... take a breath... and ask ourselves: Is money the only currency? How else ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Great Daring
In truth, incremental change is much easier for us to manage. With those tiny steps - inching ourselves forward from one day to the next - those around us are able to watch and listen, tracking for our movement and potentially, adjusting accordingly as we go. Through this process, even though we may be changing, we continue to be experienced by others as ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: PTSD
There are moments in our lives that change us. Not just our thoughts or our philosophies but our body - the very tissue of our being - is deeply, profoundly and instantly transformed into something that we had no previous knowledge of and no desire for. The subsequent and seemingly permanent effect of this tissue transformation is that our lives are no ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Men in Our Lives
After almost three decades in the program room (working with both men and women), I became aware of an emerging pattern. As I moved away from experiences that were based in technique; experiences that were supported by the detailed content of ‘how to” and the manuals that they require, I noticed that the men were disappearing from the group experience. Fewer ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Children and Potential
One thing I’ve learned over more than 25 years of working with others - and from being a Mom,myself - is that we can be very touchy about our kids! Not so much because it’s really about any particular child but much more because as parents, we so strongly identify ourselves by who our children have become. Are my kids well-behaved, doing well in school, ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Reclamation of Self
Reclaiming your Self is not a single event but a living and perpetual intention. It’s a way of ‘being’ that takes us far beyond solving a problem or fixing a broken life, and offers us access to the reclamation of untapped potential to become more than we had ever imagined possible! Reclaiming your Self is a perpetual journey and not a destination. It’s a ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Intelligence of Pain
So many in so much pain. Physical pain. Emotional pain. Spiritual pain. We have been relentlessly trained to consider the experience of pain as the enemy, seeking to eliminate it and banish it from our lives. We use drugs to numb ourselves to its presence. We accept violent and invasive procedures to the body to cut it out of our lives. Perhaps what ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Owning Our Strategies
It’s not always easy to come face-to-face with the truth of our own lives. Keeping in mind that it’s not about good/bad, right/wrong, it can prove to be profoundly meaningful to make the time to pause and allow ourselves to consider how our lives are an authentic reflection of the truth of who we are... and how they are not. In the moment of that ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Paying Attention
Being human, there are two things essential for our ability to function in this physical world. The first, is a body. Without that, we are incapable of detecting, sensing and metabolizing the experience of matter. Our bodies are capable of far more than we are taught, making it possible for us to ‘ingest’ and ‘digest’ ‘life’ at many different levels - from ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane Mondays!
Because the WEL-Systems® body of knowledge is intended to open a gateway to a paradigm change, the information that has developed over the years is at a level of thinking that bypasses strategies and behaviours. What that means is that who I ‘am’ at the first reading or listening, may not be who I have become at the opportunity of the next. ... Continue Reading >>