Transformation – although far too often over-promised and under-delivered! – is what my clients are looking for. Not incremental change; not small adjustments and little twists on the status quo, but those huge and irreversible changes to the way they move through the world. Our greatest invitation is to be able to free ourselves from our own limitations and ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane
Memory Lane: Intentional Evolution – Provocation for a Life Worth Living
So much in today’s world seeks to highjack your attention and redirect… away from your own inner rumblings and toward the nails-on-a-chalk-board screech of yet another reason to be afraid; another reason to look outside of yourself for someone (anyone!) to save you; another reason for you to capitulate to your weenie-ness and inability to figure it out for ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: How then shall I live?
The more things change, the more they stay the same. I originally wrote this July 29, 2020. Almost three years ago... and yet, at some level, feels like a lifetime ago. Stop, for a moment, and consider what has unfolded in your life... your reality... over these last three years. And sadly, it's not over, yet - there is much more to come. Despite ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Choosing to Emerge
The start of a new year and the opportunity to pause... and make it count! It can be a daunting prospect: carving out space and time to focus 100% of your attention on yourself; choosing to leave no stone unturned in acknowledging, out loud, what you know already moves within. Not in the usual bits-and-pieces approach but in a concerted and wholistic ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Out of the Shadows
Are we ever really too busy to consider the quality of our own lives? As much as we can find ourselves caught up in the daily routines that form part of living our lives, our willingness and ability to stop... take a breath... and ask ourselves: “Am I living the life I desire? Or am I living the life I think I’m stuck with?” - is no more difficult than ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Penetrating Cultural Coma
Life unfolds within a larger collective of others. Our unique and individual lives are touched by and often shaped by the perspectives and choices of others that include family and friends; colleagues and clients; and the cumulative impact of those whose faces we may never see and yet, their choices can shape the context within which we find our lives ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Cherishing After Divorce
We get divorced for a reason. If we were not able to work out our differences together, not likely that we’ll be able to work them out through our children! And yet, how many of us turn away from owning our own internal states; turn away from taking responsibility for our inner world and corresponding outer turmoil, allowing our children to be lost to the ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Money and Mind
Over time, money has come to be generally accepted as the currency of choice; as the preferred medium of exchange that allows us to bring into our lives that which, without currency, we believe we could not experience. Truth is, rare is the person or the moment when we stop... take a breath... and ask ourselves: Is money the only currency? How else ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: PTSD
There are moments in our lives that change us. Not just our thoughts or our philosophies but our body - the very tissue of our being - is deeply, profoundly and instantly transformed into something that we had no previous knowledge of and no desire for. The subsequent and seemingly permanent effect of this tissue transformation is that our lives are no ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Men in Our Lives
After almost three decades in the program room (working with both men and women), I became aware of an emerging pattern. As I moved away from experiences that were based in technique; experiences that were supported by the detailed content of ‘how to” and the manuals that they require, I noticed that the men were disappearing from the group experience. Fewer ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Children and Potential
One thing I’ve learned over more than 25 years of working with others - and from being a Mom,myself - is that we can be very touchy about our kids! Not so much because it’s really about any particular child but much more because as parents, we so strongly identify ourselves by who our children have become. Are my kids well-behaved, doing well in school, ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Intelligence of Pain
So many in so much pain. Physical pain. Emotional pain. Spiritual pain. We have been relentlessly trained to consider the experience of pain as the enemy, seeking to eliminate it and banish it from our lives. We use drugs to numb ourselves to its presence. We accept violent and invasive procedures to the body to cut it out of our lives. Perhaps what ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Owning Our Strategies
It’s not always easy to come face-to-face with the truth of our own lives. Keeping in mind that it’s not about good/bad, right/wrong, it can prove to be profoundly meaningful to make the time to pause and allow ourselves to consider how our lives are an authentic reflection of the truth of who we are... and how they are not. In the moment of that ... Continue Reading >>