"I’ve now long known something not everyone seems to pick up on: that external referencing is not our friend. Capitalist/industrialist/individualist culture is not our friend. Patriarchy is not our friend. Our own mind, when shaped by these influences, is not our friend. When our mind is not our friend, we aim to escape, to forget in whatever way ... Continue Reading >>
Men
Memory Lane: Violence and Silence
In my world of engaging with women who are seeking to regain their footing in their own lives, I have become mindful of two critical components that contribute immensely to keeping women in check: the first is silence and the second is isolation. One side of these is the need that women have to become silent, in an attempt to avoid reaction and diminish ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: The Men in Our Lives
After almost three decades in the program room (working with both men and women), I became aware of an emerging pattern. As I moved away from experiences that were based in technique; experiences that were supported by the detailed content of ‘how to” and the manuals that they require, I noticed that the men were disappearing from the group experience. Fewer ... Continue Reading >>
Men Waking Up
Recently, I was in contact with a man who has been my pen-pal for more than ten years. We met during one of the many programs I have attended and for whatever reason, chose to stay in touch through the years. We live on different sides of the world so, although I consider him my friend, I have not seen him in person since that first meeting. In a recent ... Continue Reading >>