As I'm preparing for a conference application on resilience, I chose the topic of "untangling trauma from 0 - 7" to focus on. Why? Because during those ages, we have very little say in what is done TO us. And that is how trauma is normalized and passed on, unconsciously through: * epigenetics * power of modeling * the invisible cultural and familiar ... Continue Reading >>
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Parenting: Power in the Hands of Imperfection
Let me introduce you to a new Substack offering from Simply Sarah - an unfurling wonder to behold! Sarah is a single Mom, having sort-of-recently adopted a young girl with a highly volatile internal landscape, sculpted from a 'troubled' start in challenging circumstances. Enter Sarah... bringing courage, compassion and new hope to a young girl in ... Continue Reading >>
One Mother’s Transformation: a story, shared
It can be a challenge to accept that transformation happens in a breath... in the blink of an eye... and is a choice. This shared, life-changing experience (below) comes from a woman who has been a part of Stela Murrizi's year-long Unapologetically Unfuckwithable: Embracing the Crone that I AM . Mother to a young girl who came into her life from an ... Continue Reading >>
Stela Murrizi: A Mother’s Internal Cues Matter to Our Children’s Evolution
"How many children grow up to feel unwanted by their mothers? And then spend the rest of their lives trying desperately to “be somebody” while perpetually battling a perpetual inner war of never enough. How many mothers mean to abandon their children? What is abandonment, anyway? Perhaps we’ll start here. Because abandonment is a nominalization. It ... Continue Reading >>
Parenting: for good instead of evil
The process of parenting is the delivery mechanism for culture. Not good/bad, right/wrong... just the way it is. How mindful are we - as parents and parental surrogates - of the power of our influence to shape reality for developing, young minds? How directed are we, in that process, to ensure compliance rather than exploration and discovery? Consider ... Continue Reading >>
Our Children
Rather than embed submission to authority, were we to engender in our children a deep curiosity about themselves and their potential, the world would change profoundly in a single generation. ... Continue Reading >>
Parenting: What it takes to let go….
A conversation for the time we’re in! In this moment, the trance of the last 100 years is deeply disturbed. The next steps we take will determine if we are entrained into a new trance… or if we give our children what they need to create a future outside of trance. It really is up to us! ============================ "My son is part of this world ... Continue Reading >>
This is not a drill.
"Deep in the human unconscious is a pervasive need for a logical universe that makes sense. But the real universe is always one step beyond logic.” (Frank Herbert, 'Dune') I retired in 2015 from the full-time engagement of my life’s work of the previous 25 years. I turned my attention to other things… things that I had too often overlooked or ignored, or ... Continue Reading >>
Parenting Podcast: Naomi Irons and Angela Burton
Another compelling exploration in the Poetry of Predicament podcast series; dedicated to fully embracing the magnificence of our imperfection as we navigate a more life-giving parenting process for ourselves and our children. These are not 'business as usual' times. We can feel the compression that is taking place on all levels of our expression, as a ... Continue Reading >>
Parenting: A Child is not a Legacy
Parenting: The Power of Authentic Self
Join Naomi Irons and her guest - Anne Bérubé - in a potent exploration of the process of parenting; and a revelation of where the power lies to embrace and open potential for our children. As our turbulent times continue to expand, it is not enough to teach our children the basics - we must introduce them to their innate capacity to trust the truth of ... Continue Reading >>
Stela Murrizi New Blog Post: Becoming ‘Mother’
"I suppose you expect me to write that my whole world changed, that my perception of “who” I am shifted, that my whole life transformed. Truth of it is, I transformed my life long before I chose to become “mother”. I transformed it the moment I decided, viscerally, I was no longer wiling to be captive to abuse, addiction, drugs, self-destruction, ... Continue Reading >>
Stela Shakti: A new blog post on parenting
"The two of us, as partners, have created a life where we are both fully present for our son, to the best of our abilities. We chose to co-create him out of love; we chose to stay at home the first few months to adapt to the new lifestyle; we choose to split the chores and responsibilities equitably; we choose to raise our son together. The evolving ... Continue Reading >>
Naomi Irons: Conscious parenting demands conscious parents
A conversation for the time we're in! In this moment, the trance of the last 100 years is deeply disturbed. The next steps we take will determine if we are entrained into a new trance... or if we awaken to a life outside of trance. It really is up to us. ... Continue Reading >>
Climate Change: What do we tell our children?
Yesterday, another compelling conversation with Deb Ozarko in her Deep Adaptation Forum Q & A with Jem Bendell. In these challenging times, the information shared and perspectives explored will (I believe) make great sense to those who are struggling to come to terms with that which is unfolding before their very eyes. I encourage you to find a ... Continue Reading >>
Attachments and Stories
This one has been nagging at me for a while…. Saturday is the Baby Shower for my truly delightful daughter-in-law and Mom-to-be. My Grandson is expected to make his arrival early July. I find myself wondering many things about him. As much as I know it is expected that he will learn from all of us, will we be wiling to learn about ourselves, from him? He ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Cherishing After Divorce
We get divorced for a reason. If we were not able to work out our differences together, not likely that we’ll be able to work them out through our children! And yet, how many of us turn away from owning our own internal states; turn away from taking responsibility for our inner world and corresponding outer turmoil, allowing our children to be lost to the ... Continue Reading >>
Memory Lane: Children and Potential
One thing I’ve learned over more than 25 years of working with others - and from being a Mom,myself - is that we can be very touchy about our kids! Not so much because it’s really about any particular child but much more because as parents, we so strongly identify ourselves by who our children have become. Are my kids well-behaved, doing well in school, ... Continue Reading >>
Parenting: The Roots of Community
Episode 76 ~ with Ella Schatzmann How do all the pieces fit together? How is 'culture' shaped; and how can we reshape culture in a more potent and meaningful way? What is the connection between who we have been and who we can become? Consider that the forces that shape culture begin in utero and follow us throughout our lives! What will it take for us ... Continue Reading >>