It’s not always easy to come face-to-face with the truth of our own lives. Keeping in mind that it’s not about good/bad, right/wrong, it can prove to be profoundly meaningful to make the time to pause and allow ourselves to consider how our lives are an authentic reflection of the truth of who we are… and how they are not. In the moment of that discovery, we have choice: we can choose to engage differently or not. Either way – regardless of what choice we make – we have chosen to carve out our lives mindfully, leaving behind any notion we might have of being victim. The good news about that? When we know we’re not a victim, we also know we have what it takes to change the direction of our lives, whenever it’s time for us to do so.
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The following closing thoughts can be found at the end of:
Episode 5 of ‘Reclaiming Your Self: Women Unedited and Engaged!’ on the topic of ‘Perfect Life – Still Dying?’
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Here’s a simple thought that I would like to leave you with as you move through your week. Allow this question to just sit at the back of your mind… and allow yourself to get curious about how else you might choose to live your life, today.
Take a moment to consider all those times in your life that feel repetitive to you. You know the ones I’m talking about: those moments when it feels like you’ve been here before.. in this argument, this conflict, this impasse; when it feels like this way of moving through your relationship, your work, your family challenges just keeps happening over and over again. Know what I mean?
To keep this simple, I’m going to refer to any of those moments as X – and you can fill in the blank of what it is, specifically, for you.
Once you know what X is for you, ask yourself this simple question:
“What is it that having X in my life, gives me permission NOT to pay attention to?”
Let me say that again: “What is it that having X… or doing X… in my life, makes it possible for me to continue to NOT pay attention to?”
One more pass: “What is it that doing or having X in my life, makes it possible for me to continue to ignore?”
I encourage you to allow that question to rumble through your body in the coming days as you catch yourself in the full-blown expression of X. Only this time, paying attention to what you have always chosen to ignore, just might change your life.
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