"Like fog over a town, shame roiling through our inner landscape penetrates everywhere and everything, obscures our vision, slows movement to a crawl, dampens desire to do anything except stay warm and dry and wait it out. Unlike fog, though, shame won’t just burn off, lift, or otherwise vanish on its own. We can’t control the weather. We can, however, ... Continue Reading >>
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Unstoppable emergence
Ah yes… the unstoppable power of emergence; of that natural and essential state of Being that demands constant and perpetual movement… and change… and evolution. That is the essence of who we are. In other words: we are not intended to ever be fully baked; to ever be ‘done’; to ever think that there is any end-state to which we can/must aspire… and all else ... Continue Reading >>
Performance vs Meaningful Life
The threat of fear, shame and humiliation may provoke an increase in performance but they will never provoke the creation of a meaningful life. ... Continue Reading >>
Sheila Winter Wallace: Owning it All !
We live in a world - at a time - when 'truth' has become fluid. No longer easily identifiable as a touchstone to remind us or a guide-stone to show us the way, we wander in the desert of contradictions, fabrications and outright deceptions. Without sense of any destination, we are left with the deeply-uprooted consequences of our daily struggle to find ... Continue Reading >>
Shame: Culture’s most powerful weapon
I was recently invited to be part of a small group of women who have embarked on a 10-day Whispers from Within writing process on the topic of 'shame'. I am always willing to say 'yes' to such an exploration as I hold shame as the most destructive force for shaping culture that underpins the parenting process. The destroyer of souls! That which causes ... Continue Reading >>