Are you worth what it takes to reclaim yourSelf?

I share with you my response in a recent exchange with a courageous woman who refuses to settle for a life of repeating history and habits of body and mind.  What we were exploring is what it takes to reclaim the territory of your own Life and fully occupy every moment!  Not always easy – and always worth it.

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Clearly, things are expanding for you – and, it takes what it takes. Some might consider that expression as piffle… as a pile of gibberish, new-age drivel… when, in the truth of my experience, it is simply a statement of fact. Once acknowledged and embraced, life unfolds with much greater ease as any ‘resistance’ to the ‘unjust demands’ of what presents melts away.. and all that remains is potential.  Don’t waste  your life judging what presents – just engage it and see where it leads.

You are wise to periodically check in with yourself, in a stressful moment, and ask:  “How old am I in this moment?”  For those of us in this dance, we are often surprised by the degree to which we can so easily lose ourselves to a deep groove in the nervous system… and only by asking, can we find our way back. An important line of enquiry, to be sure.

When I speak to the magnificence of our ‘imperfection’ (Sidebar: in air quotes since I do not believe ‘imperfection’ exists in energy – only in the expectations of others, imposed.), I am not kidding. What we have been taught to label ‘imperfection’ is a gateway to something much greater that awaits. AND, it requires courage for us to allow ourselves to embrace what is often deemed to be ‘broken’ or ‘less than’ and move through that gateway into a much fuller expression of our unique Being.

Evolution by intention, for its own sake…. changes reality. It is not for the weak of heart; the spineless; and/or the externally referenced.

Evolution by intention, for its own sake… changes so many things. It starts by changing the conversation that we are willing to have with ourselves. Once that awakens, it changes the conversations that we are drawn to… that we seek out… and finally, with great courage, that we initiate. We become the seed for the next layer of our own evolution.

When we change that conversation that – habitually – we have long had with others, uncertainty… unpredictability… awkwardness seeps into our exchanges. We are no longer gratified by the trivia of our lives, even when embraced with yet another drink. We hunger for deeper connection… meaning… relevance…. and the company of others who are as committed to their own discovery as we are to ours.

Many fall away… but not before ensuring that we know how broken or deficient we are found to be. Not before it is clear: there is something very wrong with you. Can’t you just be content with your good life? Can’t you just let sleeping dogs, lie? Can you just focus on the ‘good stuff’ and let the rest remain under the rug… where it was long ago swept in the great effort to ensure the very denial of its existence? Once we have changed that conversation within ourselves, we are no longer easily able to accommodate… to comply… and to silence ourselves.

Evolution by intention, for its own sake… is a perspective with very different presuppositions.

It implies that ‘evolution’ is our natural state. That ‘intention’ is causal and can be shaped as we see fit. That evolution – in and by itself – IS the prize; IS the destination; IS the reason we are here – in the flesh – to begin and end with.

In my now 30+ years, it is even more clear to me: few are interested. The vast majority believe that their ’safety’ rests in the hands of others… and in the approval of those others, of how we live. All the many, many things we have been talking about for what seems like forever! And, at some level, it is passingly interesting to me to note the degree to which we are so determined to NOT hear any of it. To hear it IS the profound risk since doing nothing would become increasingly difficult. However, to NOT hear… well… then, it’s not our fault.

All the things we were taught to believe we SHOULD value.. and seek out… and cherish… and strive to ensure our participation in… lose their lustre. Repetition. Pretence. Feigning enthusiasm and interest. And so much more! All grows increasingly grey… losing edges and vibrancy… as we fade slowly into its mundane quality. Over time, not only do we struggle to regain any sense of who we might have been… we completely lose interest in doing so. We have finally bored ourselves into non-existence and can’t be bothered. We no longer believe ourselves to be worth finding.

So, YES.. to all that you have identified! Stay in the conversations that bring LIFE into your day-to-day living. Allow yourself to be drawn to that which activates that vibration inside you rather than choosing those people/moments/conversations/places/etc that seek to quell that vibration.. to silence and freeze in time what might have caused a disturbance. Sound like anything familiar to you?

The key? Choose from the moment you’re in… moment to moment to moment. No need to plan for October – simply encourage others to make their plans and, when the time is right, you’ll work around their commitments to make one of your own. Make sense?

Having long been told that ’safety’ would be found in compliance, we eventually discover that safety is not the prize it has been made out to be. There are far more exciting, compelling, glorious outcomes to be found! I’m curious: beyond safety, what might those be, for you?