“…I had lived with a specific rule – an obligatory one – outside of my conscious awareness throughout my entire life – that I could not change my mind. For me, the right to change my mind has become a required rite of passage I have been actively advocating for with others for over the last 15 years in my life’s ‘work’. It is not that I have never changed my mind; it is just that I have struggled long and hard to do so, ever fearful of breaking the rules that admonished, ‘You can’t’ and ‘You mustn’t’ and ‘How dare you?’ To not change my mind became a cardinal rule for survival. At least, it felt like that to me. I have no doubt that many of you reading this have likely heard the age-old idiom: You made your bed; now lay in it. Not always stated out loud, it was always pre-supposed.”
In this most recent blog post from Sheila Winter Wallace – yet another powerful and compelling recognition and invitation for that in your own life – we are asked to notice our relationship with both the willingness and ability to change our mind; and the provocation that becomes as we lay claim to all that emerges into our awareness from daring to do so.
If we were to allow ourselves to own that the process of living is fluid and not fixed, changing our mind would become the requisite underpinning of living a meaningful and joyous life.
I do love this blog. I too have struggled with keeping my word and doing what I said I would. Then when the time comes that is not what I want to do. How do I tell them I have changed my mind, my body impulses are saying no not now. I do tell them no I can’t go kayaking today and then my body has many more impulses sometimes I feel great and other times the old information moves I should have gone, I don’t feel good and it is so important to stay present to mySELF because I need to let those old beliefs go…….that I need to please them, that I should keep my word, they may not ask me again………Letting my body lead is the way to my evolution and happiness. Thanks for sharing Sheila and Louise. I do love your blogs.
Hi Holly,
Thank you so much for commenting and for contributing your own personal experience to the field of awareness we know as choice and the power of being fully present in each moment to what we are choosing. Louise’s proverbial question over the years that asks: ‘How is this working for me?’ continues to stand me well. Allowing and owning the truth of my own response to that question to percolate inside where I live has been both life changing and life affirming. It is no longer about fighting the truth that lives inside, it is about honourably and compassionately wrestling with the angel of entrainment to do the opposite in the never- ending dance of internal and external signalling we know so well. Trusting the body to inform us – absolutely – is what allows courage to ignite itself. Choosing is critical and essential.
Big hug to you, Holly.