Paradigm of BEING

It’s one of those moments. Things are moving way too fast – inside, where I live – for me to be able to calibrate or track for specifics, or for information in any kind of order. It is all an explosion of formless and nameless ‘stuff’ and yet, I know it all makes perfect sense.

For some time, I’ve been mindful of the degree to which a WEL-Systems® approach/experience is profoundly different from what is typically, familiar to us all as human beings. Many years were spent in great sadness and frustration that so many would have their lives profoundly transformed and yet, were unwilling to speak to others of what had opened the gateway for this transformation to take place.

Some would say that it was the complexity of the material; and that they found themselves unable to speak to it and share it with others. Strange, I thought: in this material is the greatest of simplicity. So, in my efforts to find a way, I would encourage them to put aside the material (i.e. WEL-Systems body of knowledge, its models, etc.) and to share themselves.. to share their journey of discovery  and their experience. And there it ended.

With the passage of time has come greater wisdom – for myself. I began to notice that although we have become more familiar with talking about ‘being’, we continue to seek to find ways of ‘doing’ being. Despite the great pressure we feel to engage in the search for ‘transformation’, we continue to travel the well-worn roads of knowledge and understanding through the intellect; striving to know and do…. of seeking the next trick or technique that will make it possible for us to ‘be’ different. We gather in large groups – sometimes in the thousands and millions! – whether online or in physical venues, and we strive in masses to ‘get it’… struggling to find ‘the secret’ or ‘the path’ that we can have/do so that we can ‘be’.

I have discovered that we will never discover how to ‘be’ by doing. Sadly, the only way we can discover the power of ‘being’ is by being. That is a scary place to stand as it offers no template, no pre-framed opportunity… just ‘self’ and one breath that follows the next. There is nothing outside of us that is in any way meaningful to refer to. (How can it be? Only I can ‘be’ the I that I am.) There is no shield of ‘other’ to point to; nothing to hide behind – there is just the one that I am.

I have discovered that when we’re faced with a paradigm of ‘being’ rather than one of ‘doing’, not only does the ground shift but so do the rules (such as they are!) for moving across this ground. I have come up with the following.

A Paradigm of Being:

* has no rules. It simply is. I take a breath; I allow the breath to move through me, causing ripples and awakenings, and when I exhale, I engage. And then I take another breath….

* is profoundly intimate. To ‘be’ is to feel, to connect, to invite and allow. It is to ‘know’ in the ripples of my flesh and the churning of my belly, not in the clean-cut lines of reason and logic.  It is an experience in freeing myself from Self-censorship… an experience of letting go rather than striving for anything. It is a moment of the hand opening and allowing all within it to fall to the ground, leaving an empty space within which to invite and make room for that which flows effortlessly into it.

* has a face. The face that is mine… that is unique to me… and that I am willing to lay claim to and embrace.  I know my own face… I discover my own face… by stopping long enough to look at it. Deeply. Intimately. To take the time to look into my own eyes and wonder: who is that? ; rather than just using those eyes to scan the body and wonder if it measures up. Connecting to and with this face makes it possible for me to come face-to-face with another… to look into those eyes and see behind them rather than see what surrounds and is attached to them. Intimate, face-to-face contact.

* shares breath. I breathe into mySelf and exhale mySelf… and to connect with you, I must be willing to breathe yourSelf into me and allow mySelf to be breathed into you. Is there any greater intimacy?

I now understand why a WEL-Systems experience – which is a life-altering paradigm shift – has been so dangerous to and frightening for so many. It is a gateway to a Paradigm of Being… through being… and demands all that a paradigm of being demands.

Unbound. Intimate. Face-to-face. Breath-ful. No wonder so many have stayed hidden for so long, despite the potency of their experience. Can we be any more an expression of ‘essential being’ than this?

In this majestic Paradigm of Being, I am finding the great company of awakened, courageous and powerful women. A small band… a TribalOhana… allowing themselves to be all that the Paradigm of Being demands. We are different. I can feel that… and I watch in amazement as each lives openly, lives large and is willing to BE all that is required… is willing to see and be seen… is willing to BE and be in the presence of others who are choosing to simply BE… themselves. It is startlingly powerful – AND it is highly contagious. My belief about that? It is our essential nature and effortless to express!

I now know: I choose to engage with women gathering in small groups… BEING themselves. Intimate in open, clear, honest and direct. Face-to-face with themselves and each other. Breathing deeply and freely and frequently into the flow of their own magnificent expressions of Self! And living boundlessly, without tips or techniques or rules or practices; and choosing instead to trust that like one wave will follow the next, so will one breath always lead to another… and Life and living fully, happens.

Breathing is good…